Bengali culture has many things for which it counted as one of the colourful cultures in the whole world. Among various rituals and pujas, its marriage ceremony is one such cultural feast for anyone present at the moment. Bengali wedding, also known as ‘Beeye’ in the local language is a form of a Hindu marriage ceremony.
This form of marriage is prevalent in the eastern part of India, where traditionally marriages are arranged with the help of matchmakers (Ghotoks). Like every wedding, this wedding style also has various rituals divided into pre-wedding section, the wedding section, and post-wedding section. Given below are the five most common pre-wedding rituals that are followed in almost every Bengali wedding.
- Adan Pradan
The translated meaning of this term in English is Give and Take. Adan Pradan is the first ritual that officially kicks starts the marriage ceremony between two persons. In this ritual, both the bride side and groom’s side asks for the consent of performing marriage from the elders of each other’s family. Elders from both sides decided to meet at a pre-decided location in the presence of a Hindu Priest. In this ritual, the elders give their official consent and fix a lucky date with the help of the priest.
Ashirvaad is one of the most popular rituals in Bengali weddings which is also known as engagement ceremony. This ritual generally takes two to three days before the actual date of the marriage ceremony. In this ceremony, the groom, along with his friends and other male relatives, would have to visit the bride’s house to deliver various kinds of offerings and to give their blessing to her. Offerings generally consist of pieces of jewellery, expensive fruits and beautiful sarees. On this day both sides formally accept the groom and the bride as part of their family.
- Aai Budo Bhaat
Officially known as the last meal for both as a bachelorette or bachelor. In this ceremony, both groom and bride are invited by their family members and friends to a sumptuous meal just before the marriage day. This ceremony is taken the most enjoyable part of the whole Bengali wedding ceremony. The meal generally consists of various Bengali veg and non-veg dishes. Other than foods, both bride and grooms are invited to parties to celebrate their last day as the single man or woman.
- Sankha & Pola Porano
Sankhas are symbolizing marital bliss and happiness adorned by the bride for the first time in this ceremony. In the presence of holy hymns by a Hindu priest, seven married elderly women from the bride side put ‘Pola’ and ‘Sankha’ on the hands of the bride. In Bengali culture, pola signifies the fertility and the good health of the bride and sankha means the characteristics of the moon that would adopt in her married life.
- Gaye Holud
It is the last pre-wedding ritual of Bengali wedding ceremony. In this ritual, the mother of the groom prepares a large quantity of turmeric paste mixed with raw mustard oil. This paste is applied to first to groom by the married older women of the family. The groom takes a bath with the prepared water collected in the morning from the nearby pond or river by his family and friends. Then the remaining amount of turmeric paste is sent to the bride’s family on a silver platter along with a traditional dress and a full-size Rohu fish. There, the whole process again takes place for the bride. After this ritual, both bride and groom get ready the main marriage ceremony the next day.
There are many other small and big rituals that are included in the traditional marriage ceremony, but they are not followed nowadays. Almost all these above mention rituals are celebrated and enjoyed by both family members and their friends. We, as professional photographers from The Regal Wedding, understand this point. With our skills and experience, we would capture these precious moments into pieces of paper and convert them into life long memories for you and your family. So, celebrate this colourful festival with us and enjoy the union